i’m a simple girl i see a man with brown soft hair and brown eyes and big arms and a kind heart and i get a little stupid
actually i love growing older and learning how i work as a person like realizing what kinds of fabrics feel best on my skin or what brand of yogurt i like best or how I want to be touched. watching myself change, enjoying brussel sprouts when I used to hate them as a child, understanding why I got angry in that one conversation 10 years ago… there are so many mysteries inside me that i have yet to unravel and there will always be more and sometimes i think maybe its all worth it
Anonymous:
how to stop caring about someone?
stuckinapril:
why don’t you reframe the question? instead of asking yourself “how do i stop caring about this person?” ask yourself “how can i dedicate my time to other things that actually contribute to my happiness?” if you do anything w the goal in mind that you want to stop thinking about someone, in my experience it’ll just inadvertently make you obsess over them even more. engage in your hobbies, talk w your friends, exercise, read a book, take a social media break, watch your comfort movie, take a walk etc etc not for the sake of forgetting about a person, but for the sake of delegating your attention to things that add to your life somehow. make this about your time & satisfaction—not about somebody else.
incidentally this is why pretending to be apathetic falls flat imo. i’ve done the typical tiktok advice of “pretend to be too busy to text them back immediately” “pretend not to care that much” “pretend to be aloof” but thing is if you actually have a rich life & your time is going into things you love, at that point you won’t be “pretending” to take a while to text back. you’ll actually be too busy to be waiting at the phone for them. the idea behind this is the same: the threat lies not in apathy for the sake of apathy, but in being able to easily redirect your attention/interest to other things if you feel a person is falling short (both in a friendship and relationship context). so do that ! put your time and energy into other things, and it won’t be long before they’re not even an afterthought anymore
000l:
May the last four months of 2023 be the change you’ve been waiting for
Just insane and extremely emotional and sexy and passionate and dramatic and can be brought to tears at the simplest of things. The recipe of a truly perfect girl
god really blessed me with full lips & dark almond eyes & long, healthy hair & nice cheekbones & the most supportive mother in the world & a rich culture to indulge in & the choice to take my life in any which way i want. & i still get hung up on people ??
Want my husband to be braiding my hair as part of our night time routine
I used to think communication was the key until I realized, comprehension is. You can communicate all you want with someone but if they don’t understand you, it’s silent chaos.
I think one of the most profound forms of love is “I’ll try that, for you. I may not like it, but I’ll try it.”
It’s a confused middle-aged man in a pottery class, whose daughter is helping him with his clay’s plasticity. It’s a kid scrunching up their brow while listening to their mom’s favorite music, trying to figure out why she likes it. It’s a girlfriend who says “Yes, I’ll go with you” and her girlfriend cheering and buying a second ticket for a con. It’s a friend half dragging another friend through an aquarium, the one being dragged laughing and calling out “Wait, wait, I know we’re here for the exhibit, but I haven’t been here! Slow down!”
It’s being willing to spend some of your time trying something new because it makes someone you love happy.